When I first started this blog I mentioned that I would be writing about things I’d found to be helpful in improving overall health and well-being, including two elements I feel are often overlooked by the mainstream medical community and even many alternative health care practitioners. Those two things are self-love and self-testing, or having a way to communicate with your body. I have come to believe that both are key to maintaining or regaining health. Most of us may think we love themselves, but if we do some soul searching or really pay attention to the messages we are sending ourselves on a regular basis, I think we would see how much room there is for improvement in our self-talk and sense of self-love.
Plus, regardless of how much we may love themselves, there’s always room for expansion/more. Upping your self-love quotient is actually the most unselfish thing you can do!
I featured a previous post on mothering yourself that had some great advice on the topic of self-love, and this excerpt from Anita Moorjani’s Dying To Be Me provides even more tips and insight into the often confounding process of increasing self-love….
“PEOPLE ASK ME WHETHER THERE’S SUCH A THING as too much self-love. Where’s the line, they ask, where it starts to become selfish or egotistical? To me, there’s no such possibility. There is no line. Selfishness comes from lack of self-love. Our planet is suffering from this, as we humans are, along with too much insecurity, judgment, and conditioning. In order to truly care for someone unconditionally, I have to feel that way toward myself. I can’t give away what I don’t have. To say that I hold another in higher regard than myself isn’t real and means I’m only performing.
When I’m being love, I don’t get drained, and I don’t need people to behave a certain way in order to feel cared for or to share my magnificence with them. They’re automatically getting my love as a result of me being my true self. And when I am nonjudgmental of myself, I feel that way toward others.
In light of this, I’ve learned that it’s important not to be too hard on myself if I’m experiencing challenges. Oftentimes, the problem isn’t the apparent conflict. Instead, it’s the judgment I have for myself. When I stop being my own worst enemy and start loving myself more, I automatically have less and less friction with the world around me. I become more tolerant and accepting.
When we’re each aware of our own magnificence, we don’t feel the need to control others, and we won’t allow ourselves to be controlled. When I awoke into my infinite self, I was amazed to understand that my life could be dramatically different just by realizing that I am love, and I always have been. I don’t have to do anything to deserve it. Understanding this means that I’m working with life-force energy, whereas performing at being loving is working against it.
Realizing that I am love was the most important lesson I learned, allowing me to release all fear, and that’s the key that saved my life.” ~ Anita Moorjani from Dying To Be Me
PERSONAL NOTE: I highly recommend reading Moorjani’s book, especially if you or a loved one are dealing with health issues. Also, see this short post from Stuff My Brain Thinks for a simple routine that will give you a place to start for increasing self-love:
And for more tips and insight into how to increase self-love, check out this previous Self-help Health post on mothering yourself:
And this post about “soul vitamins” that is sure to “up” your love quotient in general: